*** Disclaimer: This post contains unnecessarily necessary excessive vulgarity. ***
“Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.”
– From The Rock
“The” guy walks in the bar.
Everything slows, people turn, no words are spoken.
His presence speaks for itself.
Nuff said. Bitch.
This is a quick guide to bandits, outlaws, bastards, assholes, and bad guys.
Why they rule.
And why you should be one too — and what all this has to do with success.
#1. Badasses don’t give a fuck
Aww mommy doesn’t like my girlfriend, my job, where I live, and how I grew my hair out.
My friends think i’m ridiculous for passing up on a job so I can go teach English in Thailand.
People all around me ask when I’m gonna settle down, have some kids, get a real life.
The proper response? Fuck all of you. Next.
Badasses have their own paths, dreams, desires. They couldn’t give a shit what your opinion is. And that’s what makes them successful.
A fun little quote that is (unfortunately) short on vulgarity and long on wisdom:
”Those people that are crazy enough to think that they can change the world – they’re the ones who actually do.”
The badass response? I’m moving to China. Fuck off.
This single minded don’t-give-a-rat’s-ass attitude, as douchebaggish as it sounds, is actually a key trait of successful people.
Have single minded devoted to that single purpose, path, and just do it. End of fucking story.
#2. You ain’t shit to a badass
You ever realize that the guys who get the most pretty girls are the ones who don’t give a shit about them?
The same goes for women – the women with the most power over men are the ones that treat men like their little brother. They don’t give a shit.
Not only does a badass not give a shit what you think, he doesn’t give a shit about one missed opportunity, travel, job or person. Except his mom.
He may have lost the battle, but he sure as fuck is not losing the war. It’s burning the boats and charging forward, Cortes style.
Single opportunities – in every sense of the word – don’t mean shit to a badass. And that makes him powerful and desired by others.
He is the ultimate ascetic, because he needs nothing and demands nothing from the world. He fucking takes it.
#3. A badass denies himself in the interest of his greater good
Not the greater good. His greater good.
If you haven’t seen a single movie with Clint Eastwood, get the fuck off the internet and go watch one.
If you have seen a movie with him, you know his character.
Permanent scowl, hard, doesn’t give two shits about hurting himself, denies himself pleasure and gets the job done.
Badasses just get the mission done. Not just for the sake of being badass, but because they are blunt and to the point.
#4. Being blunt and to the point is the name of the game
Real old fashioned assholes aren’t going to waste your time by sugar coating what they say. They just say it.
And then then move the fuck on with their life. And that’s how they get shit done.
The get-shit-done type of person doesn’t have time to explain. Or romanticize. Or embellish. Or declare what they’ll do.
Because while they outwardly don’t give a shit about what people think, inwardly they are intensely focused on what they are doing.
They waste no time with the pretty-ness of it all.
#5. Real good ol’-fashioned pricks feel like they deserve the world. And they get it.
This sense of entitlement – the feeling that the world owes you a fuckload, is actually a key trait in really ridiculously powerful people.
If you feel like you don’t deserve shit in life, are you going to work for things in life? Probably not.
It’s like plotting the “achievement” curves of two kids: Kid A who is told he is a worthless piece of shit his whole life, and Kid B who is told he can get anything he works for.
They are worlds away. And the implications of those psychologically-sown seeds are incredible.
Seriously, how badass and oldschool is someone if their word actually means something? That is one of those dead traits of seriously awesome people.
When a badass says something, he means it.
And that’s why people respect & fear him (choose which ever one is more valuable to you). Because when you say what you mean, and you act upon it, believe it or not you’re unusual.
Our society is filled with “promises” – I promise I’ll be there to see you today! I promise I’ll have it done by the morning. I promise I’ll be there in five!
But the problem is that when someone says “be there in five” we automatically assume they are fifteen minutes away and are giving a socially acceptable response.
Be a douche, say what you mean, and you’ll earn respect (or fear).
#7. Badasses always have something new going on
Boredom is boring as fuck. That was even fucking repetitive saying that sentence.
A badass is always in search of the newest challenge (woman), proving ground (who’s the bigger douche), or fresh adrenaline-injecting circumstance (motorcycles/bungee jumping/cocaine).
Growth and drive for continual improvement is also one of those inherent traits of people who excel.
It’s like comparing the “natural” sports kid, versus the one who is training hard to make the high school team.
Talent ain’t got shit on smart, hard work.
The incessant desire to be the alpha male or king douche in search of a new challenge is the killer mindset you want to harness and cultivate.
Growth + time & application = success.
#8. A badass always has a master plan but never reveals it
“Tell the world what you intend to do – but first show it”
-Napoleon Hill, in Think and Grow Rich
The outlaw in movies is always a little bit vague. Not only because he’s a bad guy who is usually engaged in illegal activities, but mostly because that’s part of his character.
The bad guy always gets the things done he has to – even if it results in his death.
And he never talks his “stuff” up on the way. People ask, and he gives a vague response.
Derek Silvers gave a talk on TED called “Keep Your Goals to Yourself.” He cited studies showing that when people share their goals with others, it psychologically elicits feelings of satisfaction and makes us less likely to follow through.
Talk is cheap.
Shut your mouth, be a badass, and be deliberately vague when talking about your goals.
Once you’ve reached “that point” people will suddenly freak out: “What?! Since when were you working on this? How???”
#9. Badasses have killer confidence
“I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion.”
-Alexander the Great
When you stare at that guy you don’t want to fuck with, his eyes automatically say: “the fuck do you want?”
So you look away. What do you want?
Confidence is the prime attribute of the cool, calm & collected killer.
But there are so many other attributes that overshadow the confidence (the whole art of badassery) that you don’t notice.
Beneath it all, the badass is just one solid motherfucker more confident than a lion. He talks slower, looks slower, and reacts slower because, after all, there’s no rush.
Who’s going to mess with him anyway? He owns the whole damn world.
Confidence can single handedly undermine all your efforts towards success if you lack it.
And ultimately, the badass is not the guy who can beat up the bullies or defend his girlfriend, but the one so unrationally calm that people are afraid of him.
He stops fights before they start – and not because he’s a wise man or pacifist. It’s because no one fucks with the lead of the pack. And he knows that too.
Confidence turns you into the Lion. So go be one.