The Price of Being an Entrepreneur and World Changer

by Alexander Heyne · 19 comments

Let’s face it.

You’re tired of the existence you’re living and you decided that it’s time to partake in the revolution.

You decided that what you’re living now is  a lie, that it’s so exhausting and draining that you’re formulating your strategic plan to evacuate.

Except no one’s got your back.

Your parents don’t say  “yeah, it’s time to stop living a life that sucks and embrace the unknown doing what you want.”

Instead of your friends saying “Hell yeah that sounds like an epic journey,” they give you that cockeyed look and go “Really? Good luck with that…

Your closest friends and family, rather than choose to support you, view you as the misfit (and a misfit you are) of the family that is sort of “figuring things out” or “being a wild child.”

You still hear the “find the best paying, safest job” talk from one parent. And you still hear the “go back to school and embrace higher education” talk from another.

And it’s right about that time at dinner that you roll your eyes, excuse yourself, and wonder if stabbing yourself in the face with your utensils might be more productive than the 400th broken record discussion with your parents.


Why your parents, friends and family don’t understand you

“Is it so bad, then, to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I’d hazard a guess and say the following: most people who changed the course of human history probably were misunderstood.

And the follow up isn’t rocket science either.. drumroll please.. those people changed the world because they did things differently, right?

And doing things differently inherently makes people suspicious, or at least curious, of what’s going on.

Chances are, you’re doing something wildly different than your other siblings. Than what your parents did. Than what most people your age are doing.

If your parents always had jobs, maybe you’re going for self employment.

If your friends have lived in the same spot their entire lives, maybe you’re moving across the world.

If you come from a family of doctors, maybe one day you realized you hate medicine and are in fact an artist – and would rather starve for as long as it takes to make it while doing something you view as worthwhile.

In any case, the cause is the same: your people either don’t understand you and think you’re dumb and naive, or they’re envious of what you’re doing and the potential you have to realize dreams they never pursued.

So your family and friends think you:

A) either aren’t cut out for it (you can’t do it) or

B) they’re envious because you have the balls to finally create a dream life — something they were too afraid to do. 

So where do you go from here?

You know what you want to do, you know you don’t want to go back to what you were doing, but you also know that no one’s got your back.

The fix

The fix ultimately is pretty simple. Grow some stones and do it. (That’s the motto of all successful people, anyway).

That’s obviously a simplistic, myopic answer.  But at its essence, doing what others just talk about doing is the way to get support from your friends and family.

If you wait for the support of others you’ll never start.

There is no best time. If you wait, you’ll never find a good time go. You’ll find a million excuses to stay and keep loathing your daily existence.

So it’s time to show that it’s worth it.

And that there isn’t really a choice in your mind. Going back would suck, and you’d rather burn all forms of retreat and hop into the vast unknown.

It’s your chance to prove how badly you really want it.

It’s your chance to finally entertain the possibilities of what might happen if you couldn’t fail.

And it’s your chance to finally destroy the potential of living a mediocre, boring life, comparing your lawn with that of the Jones’, envying your corporate friends who are trading their life for money, all the while saying “I wish I could do that.”


That won’t be you.

And when you do reach the other side, you can show others that yes, it really is possible. And no, it’s not as scary as it looks from the other side.

You can tell them that you don’t want to die feeling like there was still so much stuff you wanted to try. (The #1 regret of the dying)

You can tell them that you’re tired of comparing yourself to your corporate friends that work 70 hour weeks and spend the rest of their free time drinking.

And you can tell them that what you’re doing is perhaps the most worthwhile thing in existence – the deliberate crafting of a meaningful life that is fucking awesome.


Mediocre living and thinking are comfort food for most people.

It’s easy, it’s predictable, it doesn’t require much to keep it going.

They don’t want to invest the effort to create an extraordinary one.

And now that you’ve consciously chosen to make a decision that you want to create a life that looks like it belongs in a movie, it should come as no surprise that 99% of people won’t understand you.

Some will hate and doubt you.

Some will envy you.

Some will just shrug and say “Uhh, go for it.”

Some just plain won’t understand you.

Some will say “prove it.”

Regardless of what they think or what they say, you gotta tell them “Gotta go, work to do, history to make.”

Because ultimately you’re doing the stuff most people just talk about doing.

Your doing the stuff of legend. The stuff people will talk about. You’re the one people want to live vicariously through.

Truth is?

The world needs more people like you.


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Steve Rice April 15, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Thanks for this great reminder and inspiring challenge, Alexander. I’m in the middle of this process (again) right now. It’s great to have people like you who are standing beside me doing the same things and daring to be great! Thanks.


afheyne April 16, 2012 at 2:27 pm


I got your back! Haha but yeah it can be seriously disconcerting and a self-esteem breaker. It’s more a deal with young people who don’t have their character fully formed yet, who are more vulnerable to criticism. Nonetheless having too many doubters is often a reason why most people never start anything.. The sad truth.


Antonio J. Suárez April 16, 2012 at 7:14 am

You are absolutely reason.

Always when I’ve tried to change something in my life, I’ve always found reasons against the change from friends, parents and all people around me. Reasons could be different in any case but the power they had over me has been great, to the point of rejecting all stuff I could change.

Two years ago when I decided to do some changes and I did them, I felt really good with myself and although some of them were not good, it was a good time for me because I felt that I had the power over my life.

Since then although I have had bad moments due to some changes, I feel very good with myself because I have the control of my life and I don’t have to blame others by my decisions.


afheyne April 16, 2012 at 2:30 pm


Yeah it really hurts and really slowly momentum when your close friends/family don’t support you. I don’t think people quite realize the impact that it has, especially if it’s a person’s spouse – the person they spend the most time with.

Like you said the most important part is the *feeling* of having power over your life. It’s empowering, literally. And it’s the feeling of finally pursuing the path rather than trying to find the path. Totally different emotions and experiences.

And I agree 100%, it’s all about living with your decisions – at the end of the day who do you answer to? No one but yourself. If you are making decisions that you don’t really want to make just to make others happy, you’ll be unhappy with yourself. And ultimate you are only living with yourself. It’s a dangerous trade off.


Dean Soto April 16, 2012 at 3:31 pm


“If you wait for the support of others you’ll never start.”

Totally agree, you are spot on! This is especially true when it comes to family (like you mention in the post). It’s hard not to want to have the full support of those you love and who love you before starting something on your own. They often don’t understand (like Emerson pointed out) or are afraid that you are going to fail.

Luckily, my wife fell into the “Uhh, go for it” camp, but the rest of my family thought I was nuts to start my own thing. Best decision ever.

This post needs to be read by anyone looking to do something on their own but are afraid to start. Love it. :)


afheyne April 16, 2012 at 4:08 pm


Yeah it’s definitely one of those touchy subjects. And like I said to someone else, the younger the person is the harder it usually is for them to find the courage to do it. Young people tend not to have their characters totally formed — we tend not to be sure of ourselves (because we don’t really know what we want), and thus we’re more susceptible to the opinions of those around us.

As far as I’m concerned, if you wanna do it, you gotta do it! I personally find it much more risky to stay unhappy doing something I know won’t get better. My 2 cents haha.


anonymous21 March 9, 2014 at 7:11 pm

Respect for articles like this. Love it so much. I feel exactly how you wrote it. So I feel misunderstood and then you really thinks is there nobody who understands me? Than articles like this helps me a lot and let me know I am really on the right track and they’re not. If I read articles like this I feel there really are people who understand men like me without I will keep doing it to but it’s extra nice to let it confirm with something like this. So much love. I will conquer my vision where I been born for so I can help and change the world so I’m happy. God bless


Alexander Heyne March 10, 2014 at 10:29 pm

Cheers ! There are many others like you, keep fighting the good fight!


Alexandra April 7, 2014 at 9:58 pm

Thank you for writing this. I’ve been doubting myself endlessly, because I’ve always had my parent’s approval. Thank you for reminding me I only ever needed to make myself happy.


Maliaty January 21, 2015 at 3:09 am

Your word — “If you wait for the support of others you’ll never start” , have waken me up Alexander. I’ve been spending my twenty years not to do anything because afraid for being dumb and misunderstood like I’m too fool to not consider about the impossible things. I know I have to start and it’s now the time, no more delaying. Start to prepare my self for being dumb or naive and to be misunderstood and learn how to act on faith.
Thanks to God and for your article too. God bless.


Alexander Heyne March 6, 2015 at 5:11 pm

Good luck Maliaty!!


Chetan Chavan August 6, 2015 at 8:58 am

Thank you for great article. I was consistently bombarded by parents and friends about my dreams. Now it’s time to prove myself irrespective of others. Thank you again.


yasmina September 9, 2015 at 5:58 pm

your article really inspired me thank you very much for writing it i was actually depressed about how my own family doesn’t respect the way i think but now i will try hard to change the way i do everything i will start to do them my way


Hamza November 9, 2015 at 4:29 pm

Wise words selected to write this article. Exactly what I needed to read.
Cheers for inspiring !


Nicholas January 9, 2016 at 11:30 pm

A very wise and insightful article. I’m in this situation at this very moment; trapped within being told to live my life the same as my family, relatives and peers have lived. I’ve gone through countless fear and pain internally because I always feel that no one ever has faith in me and in the dream I hold dear to make reality. I want to be an author of fictional novels (and an inspirational writer) so badly… but I’m always told by all in some form or another that I can’t do it.

…But this article inspired me. I’m going to write my soul out from now on and improve until I can finally make that big step. I don’t care how much people doubt me anymore, or if I even fail. I want this to work out, or I’ll suffer more trying. So I thank you very much for sharing your wisdom.


Rituraj April 1, 2016 at 4:18 am

Thank you


Alexander Heyne April 2, 2016 at 3:45 pm

You’re welcome


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