There is only one thing you need to get everything you want in life.
The brutal truth is that life is not easy.
Maybe you’re the kind of person sitting in a 9-5 job that pays your bills, but you are bored as hell with your life. You feel like you haven’t created a single memory in the past three years. Nothing has changed at all. It scares the shit out of you. “Am I going to die like this?”
Or maybe you’re the “dream A.D.D.” person. Your focus/passion/dream changes every six months. You burn hot and strong but you fizzle out quickly. Years elapse, or decades, and you almost never make any progress. Five years ago you were no closer than you are now.
Maybe still you’re just in a really shitty place in life. No job. Depressed. Wondering what your great purpose/passion is in life, and you’re struggling to try and “figure it all out.”
Here’s the thing: you only need one thing to solve your problems.
And that one thing is called courage.
Quit your job and find your passion?
I’ve got many friends that are in the “comfortably numb” stage of their lives. They went to good schools, got good jobs, and now have “good lives.” They live in big cities, work jobs they’re supposed to, are mostly bored as hell, are boring as hell, and have a long list of things they’d rather be doing than going to work. Understandable.
I’m the only one in my circle that is working hard to change my reality. When I get home from my dayjob, I go and spend another four hours a day on my business. It’s sometimes agonizing to see weeks fly by without my knowing it, but it’s something I enjoy and something that will replace my dayjob in a few years.
Naturally, my friends are both curious and a bit envious – I mean who doesn’t want to quit their dayjob and do something they actually like?
When I ask them why they don’t do the same, I get the same answer, and here’s how it begins:
“Eh…I just…. <insert reason/excuse/artificial wall>”
The truth is that no matter what my friends say, they aren’t “going for it” because they’re too comfortable.
Comfort is seductive, deadly, and insidious. Even if you show up to a job you don’t like, if you don’t have a burning hatred for it 24/7, you’ll leave it at the door and forget about it when you go home.
So during the hours of 9-5 you HATE your job, but then five o’clock rolls around and it’s “wahooo!!!” and you forget about it. Go home, self-medicate, rinse and repeat. You never fully hate your job enough to make the move.
The unknown scares the shit out of them. Many people choose comfort and misery over stepping into the darkness and potentially living the dream.
What you – and they – need is courage.
It takes bravery to invest 1,000 hours a year into something that might vaporize into thin air and fail. It takes bravery to decide that, hey, I’m 50 years old but I’m going to take night classes for 4 years to finally pursue something I actually like. Something that fills the void.
The exceptional life requires bravery.
You’re in the wrong relationship
You’re in the wrong relationship, and you know it… or you have a small inkling of a feeling. But you say to yourself “he’s fine. He’s a good guy. He’s good enough… why bother leave if it’s working fine?” But deep down you know he probably isn’t the one.
Been there? Any of us that have been in “failed” relationships have been there. One of the partners realized, “Yeah I can’t see myself with this person” and the rest is history.
But what happens if you’re in a “good” relationship, and not a great one? You’re settling because you say “good enough”. He/she’s not exactly what I want, but what are the chances of me finding someone better?
Wrong question. The absolute worst question. You are making a massive life decision not because you are passionate about it, but because you’re afraid. You’re living a little life and smothering all your potential. I’m not saying to have high standards or not be content. I’m just saying if you know it’s not right – make the leap, even if it scares you.
It takes courage to step into the dark and say “you know, this is good an all, but you aren’t the right one.” Actually, it’s scary as hell. It may leave you more depressed than you’ve ever been in your life. But a few years later you’ll look back and say “I’m glad I made that decision.” You’ll know you made the right one.
Sometimes the decisions that make us feel the absolute worst now are the ones we most need for the future.
Do what you KNOW you have to do… even if it scares the shit out of you. There is a reason why you intuitively know the next move in your life – but often hold back due to fear of the darkness.
The one thing you need right now
Here’s the only thing you need right now.
To find your passion. To live your dream. To “fulfill your destiny.”
You need courage.
You need the kind of courage that lets you drop a bad relationship even though it’s comfortable and safe and secure.
You need the kind of courage keeping you in a shitty, dead-end job that pays your bills but doesn’t nourish you in any other way.
You need the kind of courage to put in 1,000 hours in a year on something you’re crazy about, even if you don’t know whether or not it will pay you enough to ever sustain you.
You need the courage to step into the darkness when you have no idea where the path will lead, just because you know that’s the right next step.
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