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You can choose between being a victim of destiny or an adventurer who is fighting for something important.”

-The Alchemist

Feel like your life is pointless and you were born to do bigger and better things? 

Milk the Pigeon is about:

  • Killing that “lost” feeling, once and for all
  • Living a meaningful life
  • Bold, ballsy living (it’s more fun, I promise)
  • Creating something meaningful
  • Doing the {Supposed} impossible

The Beginning of the End: A Story

In 2009 I graduated from a top US college with a bachelor’s degree in biology, and couldn’t get a job in my field.

No, in fact, I couldn’t find a job at all, so I took the first thing that I could find.

The pay was great, the hours were even more awesome, but by the end of my first year working there I felt like my life was pointless. I had all the physical, material stuff, but life was just unfulfilling. It wasn’t what I wanted.

I had everything I was taught to want. Everything we’re told to go after.

But I wasn’t happy.  And what bothered me was that it wasn’t logical. I had everything I needed and even most of the stuff I wanted.

But still my day to day life felt pretty meaningless.  As time went on, I started going for long mindless drives in my car to keep my depressed head busy.

One day I decided this couldn’t go on for long and that it was becoming a little ridiculous.  It was my life, and I didn’t like it.

I thought, “What the hell?  I have the opportunity to do *anything* in the world and I’m sitting here being miserable?”

So I did what any logical person would do. I moved to China.

Living in China for a year gave me one crystal clear insight: the purpose of life is to live out your own meaningful story, and the only way you can achieve that is by carefully, deliberately crafting it. It won’t happen on its own.

Thus, upon my return to the United States in late 2011 Milk the Pigeon was born.

To milk the pigeon comes from an Old English phrase meaning “to do the impossible” (ever tried milking a pigeon? Yeah, don’t…).

Why? What’s the importance?

I’ve met a lot of people in my time and in my travels (i’ve traveled to over 40 countries and have lived on 3 continents), but have very rarely met people truly satisfied with life. Usually it’s their job, but often it’s a much deeper form of discontent. 

Being a disillusioned youth I thought: “What the hell? This is ridiculous, we’re living lives that we hate in some way!? Screw that… I’d rather live as a traveling hobo and ditch the real world.”  

What I later realized was that I already had most of the first four tiers of maslows hierarchy going. I wanted more from life (and was feeling discontent) because all my basic human needs were being met.

I needed life to be creative, spontaneous, exciting, meaningful and different for me to be fulfilled. The safe secure job was a TINY piece of the puzzle for my own life satisfaction.maslow

I decided then and there that I would do whatever it takes to live the kind of life I didn’t see people living. A meaningful, deliberate, passionate, un-fucking-believably epic life.

That, by many, was perceived as an impossible task. Thus, my mission to milk pigeons.

Milk the Pigeon has three basic principles:

  1. Live a meaningful life by writing the story you wish you could read.
  2. Destroy the ordinary in your life and live boldly (in every way, shape, and form)
  3. Create something extraordinary (your life, a biz, a mission or greater purpose)
And a fourth: bust your ass 10x harder than anyone you’ve ever known to make all this happen.

Get Started Here:

    1. Pick up a copy of my favorite book - The Alchemist
    2. Read the 56 page manifesto Killing Your Old Life and Living the Dream which will help get you on the road to creating a life that is worth living
    3. Read Milk the Pigeon’s rules for creating a conversation-worthy life
    4. Read the 12 Commandments of the Revolution
    5. Read this post: Young and Lost?  You Are Not Alone

A Milked Pigeon a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

More on Milk the Pigeon: To ”milk the pigeon” is a phrase that comes from an old dictionary in the early 19th century.  The approximate translation is “to endeavor at impossibilities”, which I think is more than symbolic regarding the audience of this blog. Most of us feel trapped into one thing or another – a major life path we’re forced to take, stuck in a crappy 9-5 that has no meaning or significance, or simply going through the motions in a life that has nothing inherently worthwhile about it.

As a result, I hope this blog will inspire people to quit living a life they hate – a life they view as meaningless and pointless – and start living their own personal dream, whatever that may be.

I hope as a community we can start a revolution of pigeon-milking, ass-kicking, inspiring sons of bitches who will truly change the way people view life and everything that comes with it.

Here’s to dreaming like a kid again, and seizing every damn thing you’ve ever wanted from life.

Alexander Heyne

@Milkthepigeon

Alexander / at / Milkthepigeon.com


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Mohamed Tohami November 9, 2011 at 8:01 am

Hi Alexander,

I would like to interview you and feature your success story on my blog http://www.transformationalmotivation.com

It is part of the passion vs. paycheck series where I invite passionate living role models to show people how to find and connect their passion to a profitable path and overcome the mighty power of the paycheck that forces them to stay a job they hate.

If you’re interested, please reply to this message and we can set up a date and time.

Regards,
Tohami

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Nancy January 1, 2012 at 9:54 am

“#2 You’re someone already established in a life or career but feel like it’s pointless and that you’re only working because you should be.” This is me. Found your blog through a tweet by Darren Rowse @problogger. Still wondering what happened to my twenties now that I’ve moved into my next decade. Life is good, but it could be better. Your story is inspiring. I’ll follow.

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afheyne January 1, 2012 at 2:57 pm

Nancy,

Thank you for stopping by :) . Where are you these days and what are you working on? Any plans to transcend work for works’s sake?

I don’t want to be the grain of rice that tips the scale (or maybe I do..) but here is something interesting:

My good friend is going through what you are, except for one thing: he has decided to make the move.

He worked the same job for a couple years right out of college, makes good money (tech field), but he’s beginning to feel like it’s worthless. There’s no adventure in his life, no excitement, no fresh-ness.. So it’s on to the next challenge for him. He’s debating on two things: taking another job across the world, or starting his own business with a couple friends. He couldn’t decide so he asked me for help, and here’s what I said:

Do whatever sounds like more of an adventure. Honestly, at the end of the day I find myself disappointed with myself only on the days when I’ve chosen monotony over adventure — and that’s usually only out of fear.

Thanks for coming along –

Alex

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Sunjay Aryan January 2, 2012 at 12:31 pm

Just wanted to say, I liked the blog! The title is innovative and made me stop and read. You may see me here again.

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afheyne January 2, 2012 at 2:33 pm

Thanks for stopping by Sunjay!

Alex

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Janet Huey January 2, 2012 at 2:29 pm

I didn’t find my passion until I was 44 and kicked out of a job I loved. At 58 I a still doing that which I feel passionate about, so it can be done later. Of course
I wish it had hit earlier, but grateful it hit period!

I also did martial arts for 4 years beginning at 39 and didn’t care that I was the oldest in the class..I do not let age limit me.

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afheyne January 2, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Janet,

Better late than never. It’s awesome that at least you found something enjoyable, seeing as 99% of people never end up doing something remotely enjoyable for their work. Consider yourself lucky, haha –

Alex

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Jayson de Rosner January 5, 2012 at 3:14 pm

Hey

Read your guest post on ProBlogger. Loved it. Some very good pointers, as I am making a lot of the same mistakes you had made.

Came to your site from there, have had a look around and love it. Keep going.

Kind regards
Jayson de Rosner

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afheyne January 6, 2012 at 12:32 am

Jayson,

Thank you! Glad things worked out and you found your way over.

Alex

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Nhil January 6, 2012 at 4:20 am

I’m actually someone who knows what I want to DO and who I want to BE but for some reasons, has no balls to follow my dreams.

Thanks for this great site and that awesome ebook. You inspired me a lot.

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afheyne January 6, 2012 at 9:56 am

No problem Nhil — Hey, if you know what you want to DO and who you want to BE – you are already ahead of 99% of humanity. Consider yourself bless.

And if you know that you don’t have the balls to follow through.. you know your mission now!

Thanks for stopping by

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Ryan April 6, 2012 at 1:24 am

Wow, are you me? I feel like I am in the exact position you were in just before you moved to China. That is a pretty bold step! I don’t think I could ever take action like that, especially not in my current circumstance (in a relationship).

It is not often that I read something like this that I can really connect with.. I will definitely be subscribing after I have a bit of a look around! (I just stumbled upon this site.)

Thanks again

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afheyne April 6, 2012 at 6:47 pm

Ryan,

Haha yeah It seems like there are more and more people like you and I going through the same sort of cookie cutter routine. We graduate, we work a lot, we buy some stuff and then we have credit card bills to pay, and then we have to keep working to pay fort the stuff.

And one day we realize we don’t even like the stuff or the live we’re living. And that we haven’t thought about the life we want to live..

It’s a fun journey man, hope you stick around !

Alex

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Patty August 11, 2012 at 9:36 am

I have a lot to say but I find it ironic that while your words speak to me and hit home every time, you share the same name of the person who’s the reason I lost my balance andd went off track in the first place a couple of years ago, balance I’ve been fighting to regain.

Jussayin. Now, I must go back to work so I can finish early and read your blog. I can’t wait to read more…

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afheyne August 13, 2012 at 4:09 pm

Hey Patty,

Which person got you sidetracked? Was it Paulo Coelho’s book ? Tell me more !

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Sean King January 15, 2013 at 12:50 am

Hey Alexander,
Love the name – the brand – and the story. So glad to have crossed paths :)
- Sean

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Alexander Heyne January 15, 2013 at 11:09 am

Hey Sean –

Thanks for stopping by man, I’ll be following your stuff for sure, i’m super intrigued! This blog kind of became the “backstory” for everything. It originally started as something I planned to generate income with, but it’s the kind of “diary of an online startup” guy now haha.

Alexander

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SH January 17, 2013 at 3:29 am

Inspiring but still very frightening. How do I enjoy my life without the means? Not that I’m all about money, but I hate the fact that it is all about the money. Tell me, if you would, how do a Psych major out of college for 3 years with no job aspects want to live her life truly and not take into consideration of her parents and their low-income and financial problems? but I do find your blog inspiring and hopefully i can find my happiness too

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Alexander Heyne January 19, 2013 at 2:58 pm

Hey SH –

It’s never all about the money. Does a person have to pay bills? Yep. But in my opinion if it’s all about money then a person’s ego is too much in the picture.

Here’s what I’d suggest: start reading as much as possible on building a business, read books like “The Education of Millionaires” By Michael Ellsberg, and “The Millionaire Fastlane” by MJ Demarco.

Forget whatever success (or lack of success) your parents had – you are another story, and you can change your story whenever you want.

Read this other post I wrote on that: http://milkthepigeon.com/2012/01/04/getting-un-lost-and-rewriting-history/

Hope it helps!

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Jessica January 23, 2013 at 12:14 am

Holy. craptarts.

Are you in my brain? This is awesome – I found your blog through a post over at problogger, essentially saying, “you there! the one who’s bookmarked, tagged, sorted (and actually read) a full sixteenth of the entire internet in the name of ‘research?” Put down the google machine and get to work.”

I’ve been a dabbly, just-to-hear-my-head-roar/document-a-few-things-in-the-moment-for-posterity blogger since 2009, but decided to get serious about it Q3 last year; spent Q4 researching/planning/etc (since my most recent previous endeavor was an application-to-full-funding-quit-your-desk-job-pack-up-your-crap-and-move-in-three-weeks-i’m-paying-you-to-write-a-paper, grad-school-crash-and-burn whirlwind… all “i”s would be dotted and “t”s would be crossed this time ;o) ). Ironically, I found your blog when cleaning out my Pocket articles and re-reading the problogger one after just launching my site *yesterday* (having decided I’d figure out teach myself Thesis 2.0/AT ALL on nights and weekends but I wasn’t holding my blog hostage until March because adjusting column widths was making my soul crackly, and if there are mommy-and-other blogs out there making it with followers on stock themes with rampant typos, then the I’d just ask forgiveness rather than permission from the blogging gods and get on with it already.

Whew. Anyway, all that to say, awesome stuff here, name included; I love your perspective AND writing style (often find “advice-y” sites where I love one or the other, but not both, so YAY!), and I’m glad I stumbled into your little corner of the internet. Happy Tuesday!

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Alexander Heyne January 25, 2013 at 10:48 am

Hahha hi Jessica –

Haha yep, sounds like the post I wrote ! I’ve been guilty of that mistake before.

Sounds like you’ve got something exciting planned haha, don’t worry about Thesis 2.0 I’m as tech-retarded as they come, and my new site runs on thesis 2.0. The first day you want to stab yourself in the face with a fork. But by day 3 it makes sense. Don’t fret ;)

Well I’m definitely glad you found the site, Hope you stick around !! Shoot me an email if you want to tell me more about what you have going on !

Alexander

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Ci January 28, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Hmm… Will you marry me? =P

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Alexander Heyne January 28, 2013 at 10:32 pm

Hahah :D

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somewhere out there April 24, 2013 at 10:14 pm

thought I was the only one in love with you xD

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CA May 21, 2013 at 3:28 am

Oh, Alex.

You are just a typical person from Generation Y. In the endless quest for happiness because your parents told you it is what you expect from life.

I thought we were a cool generation too. I guess not:

http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2011/07/15/what-gen-y-doesnt-know-about-itself/

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Alexander Heyne May 21, 2013 at 6:19 pm

Hi “CA,”

Penelope brings up some good points, but I don’t agree with all of them. I’m not sure how exactly linking to her article provides some kind of de-facto “this is the way it is,” but it’s an interesting read.

P.S. Thanks for being brave enough to leave your full name with your “thoughts.”

– Alex

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Niki June 10, 2013 at 3:09 pm

Hi Alex :)

I like your passion and the way you write. It’s great to see people like you motivating people to live a better life. This world needs more people like you.

I wish you a wonderful week !

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Jessica June 11, 2013 at 11:13 am

I am so happy that I came across your site. It seams that you and the rest of the people on here are the only one’s who understand that “stuck” feeling. Nobody around me seems stuck or they are just good pretenders. I have felt stuck for over a year now. I did everything I thought I was suppossed to in order to be happy (degrees, house, career, family, friends, boyfriends) and now that I am here I feel less happy than I was originally.

I laughed a little when you wrote about driving around in the evening just to get away from the boredom. It sounded like something I might do and probably will here soon.

The only thing that keeps me from being adventurous is that I have a teenage son and I don’t want to yank him around the world so that I can live my life to the fullest. Being a single mom, providing a stable home for my son has always been a top priority. If it was just me I could pick up and leave and trust me, I would!

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Alexander Heyne June 12, 2013 at 11:04 am

Hey Jessica,

Welcome home then :) . To be honest, I think most people aren’t self aware enough to realize they’re stuck. They’ve already gone to the self-medication phase of drinking, mindless entertainment (video games, copious TV use), or are still stuck in the materialism cycle to keep their mind busy.

Well let me pose an entirely realistic scenario for you: taking your son on a world tour (or even a year abroad) might be the best thing you ever do for his education and personal development. Don’t forget there are always ways – life is rarely an either/or, and the real trick is to find the “AND” in the equation. You can have both.

Someone you might like is Annie Andre, who has been on a sabbatical in France with her family for a while. Maybe she can give you some tips! http://www.annieandre.com

Best,
Alex

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Rich June 11, 2013 at 11:38 am

So I’m sitting at my dreaded mundane job and googled “if your life and job are meaningless what is the point” (Yeah. It’s THAT bad) which brought me here.

I’ve only read a few posts, but feel like some of your ideas could definitely help me transform my life, even if I am a mid-40′s guy with a wife and three kids to support with just my income (it’s a lot harder to make some changes when you’re risking more than your own well-being).

Thanks!

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Alexander Heyne June 12, 2013 at 11:06 am

Hey Rich,

No worries man! I think the ideas I talk about here apply to everyone, but I specifically targeted 20 somethings because I think they need the most help.

I definitely have had hundreds of emails from middle aged people though that need the change too.

Agree, it’s harder in your situation – you can’t make financially risky decisions and you have less free time – but there are people doing it. And there are many who have done it. If you think it’s important enough (not hating your job every day), I’m sure you’ll find a way. Let me know if you ever have any questions !

Cheers!
Alex

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