What the F&%K Should I do With my Life?
“I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change.”
If you’re like most
20 somethings people on the face of the planet, you really have no clue what you want to do with your life.
It doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 45 – I get emails every day from people around the world telling me of their plight.
Sometimes it’s a 20 something figuring out what major to choose in college, or what work they should do for the rest of their daily existence.
Sometimes it’s a 40, 50 or 60 something who tells me “I just woke up one day and realized that this was not the life I wanted for myself. I just woke up one day… and here I am. I have no idea how i got here.”
The fact is that most of us have no idea what to do with our lives because we have not thought about it.
Have you sat down for more than 5 minutes to think about what you want your life to look like? Beyond just bullshit shallow statements like “Six-figures, 3 kids, slim & healthy” — what specifics make up a life you’d want to wake up for?
I have struggled with this for years –
Like most 20 somethings, right out of college I did what I was “supposed” to do — I got a job and joined the 9 to 5 grind. I worked dutifully for a year, and even though the job was great and I was paid well, I got tired of the same schedule 7 days a week.
I kept asking myself if this lifestyle was what I really wanted for the rest of my life. I mean, I was 22. Sit in small town Connecticut or New York for the rest of my life? Yeah… i’ll pass.
If you don’t know my story – I ended up moving to China for over a year and came back to a startling revelation:
Why doesn’t anyone freaking think about life?
I came back to friends living the exact same lifestyle since college — three, four years after college they had their 9 to 5 (that almost all of them hated), boring lives (by choice), and a cozy little complacent life that was slowly killing them.
I took one look at how my friends were living and said: “Fuck that. That is definitely not what I want.”
.. And that’s how Milk the Pigeon was born.
So if you’re here, I’m gonna guess that you’re one of two people.
A. You’re young, you’ve got some options, you have no freaking clue what to do. Major in this or major in that? Work this job, or that job? My job sucks but I don’t know what other kind of work I’d like. Sound familiar?
B. You’re older and life is passing you by. You’re possibly living in a life that you feel “happened to you” rather than “you chose.”
How to figure out what the hell to do:
#1 Read our manifesto: The Lost 20 Something Guide to Figuring Out What the Hell to do With Your Life.
#2 Check out the following posts:
Books To Read That Will Help:
The defining decade by Meg Jay, is one of the best books for lost 20 (or 3o) somethings that are trying to figure out what in the hell path to take, especially if you’re looking to live an awesome, meaningful life.
Man’s Search For Meaning
Man’s search for meaning, by Viktor Frankl is a book I quoted above because it’s by far one of the best books regarding finding purpose in life. Viktor talks about how he was dying in a Nazi concentration camp, and the only thing that not only helped him to stay alive, but also find a sense of purpose while all the other people around him slowly died.
#3 Shoot me an email and tell me what you’re struggling with most, I’ll get back to you in a day or two ! Alexander / at / Milkthepigeon.com